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My Mistake Cost Me Money Then and Now

by Kelly on October 8, 2007

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This is the next post in my cross blog conversation with Nicole Dean.

She asked me:

“What’s your #1 mistake you’ve made over the years in your business that has held you back both financially and professionally?”

Hey Nicole :)

Well you said I can’t use ‘lack of focus’ as my answer so this has to technically be #2 ;)
The big mistake was made in NOT realizing the awesome potential of affiliate marketing sooner.

I’ve shared this in interviews before. When I was a young marketer I discovered affiliate programs and I looked for every chance to plaster an affiliate banner or link on my website and in my emails to the few moms (less than 100) who has joined one of my mailing lists.  I waited anxiously for the riches to appear - which of course didn’t happen.
I worked my behind off for about a month to reach a $25 minimum payout on one program, then looked back and realized that I had worked about ten hours for that $25… $2.50 an hour I thought?  Argh! Not this mom.

I dropped affiliate marketing like a hot potato and re-focused my attentions on what I could DO for money.

This was fine, I did make money.  Not a lot - but at least I was getting a decent hourly rate for my time most days.

Meanwhile, other moms around me were talking about making a lot of money with affiliate programs.  I decided that only the moms with huge mailing lists were making money that way and still refused to give it another look.

More than a year passed.  I was growing my lists, I was growing my websites and all that.  My income was increasing but you know I was working hard for every penny.

It was a conversation on Lynn Terry’s forum that caught my attention finally.  I hadn’t joined Google’s Adsense program because I lumped it all together with other affiliate programs.  I expressed my opinion that the little I might make would not be worth the trouble and Lynn said something close to this:  “Well, how much is enough for doing nothing but placing ad code on your website?”

Well, when you put it that way (sheepish) - I guess even a tiny amount is better than nothing.

So I went and signed up.

That was the beginning of my ’second try’ with affiliate programs.

I stopped looking at how ‘little’ I would make from an individual sale and started focusing on how all those littles can add up over time.

And sure enough, they did.

A year later I was making a few hundred a month just from affiliate programs. Two years later about 25% of my income was affiliate income.  Today I bring in over $1000 in affiliate payments each month - and about half of that is strictly residual.  (Meaning I haven’t worked for that money in years!)

As exciting as it is to see the cash come in, I can’t help but think about how I could be making that much more if I’d started sooner.

The scary thing is that I could have easily made the mistake longer if I hadn’t stopped to listen to someone with more experience.  This reminds me about how important it is to rub elbows with others who are doing what you want to do.

Did you happen to see Lynn Terry’s blog post today?  My question for you this week has to do with it.  I posted a reply.  It’s a topic I find really interesting.

So my question:  Have you ever suffered from ‘Guru Envy’?

Next time girlfriend :)

Watch Nicole’s blog for her reply.

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Nicole, I too am sometimes ‘much afraid’

by Kelly on September 30, 2007

This is my second post in a cross blog conversation.

In response to Nicole’s last post.

I had forgotten that we officially met through the WAHM MVP Competition Nicole! Another reason that I love doing that ;) If I remember correctly, you hid in a bathroom with a bottle of beer! (or was that another time?)

I think it was ‘much afraid’ that I called you and that is actually a literary reference to a character in a favorite Christian book of mine Hinds Feet in High Places. If you haven’t read it - you must get it. It’s a quick read. An allegory of how we are often ‘much afraid’ of life and it’s challenges but find that when we face our fears (with the Shepherds help) we are much stronger that we thought.

That you recognize your value is good to hear! We can know something about ourself ’sort of’ but when we see and hear that others know it too, it goes a long way in confirming our skills and expertise doesn’t it?

You asked me:

“Ever since I’ve known you, you *always* seem so together, so confident, so sure of everything that you do. On your show, you just exude confidence. And, when you see a “wrong” in the work at home mom community, you are the first one to call it, even though you know there’ll be a back-lash. It doesn’t even seem to phase you to put yourself out there as a target. Are you really that confident all the time in business and in personal life? And, were you always that confident or is it something you learned over time? And, if you learned it… any tips for me? “

Hard questions Nicole! Hard to answer…

On one hand, yes - I really am that confident. I’ve got the kind of temperament that sees things as being very black and white and when I think I’m right, I’m pretty much willing to lay it all on the line.

This can make for trouble when I’m wrong ;)

But most of the time, it serves me well.

Too many people are wishy washy. Too many live in gray areas all the time and never take a stand for what is right or wrong. I can’t live that way. When I try to, I makes me sick to my stomach.

I really do think that God wired me to have strong convictions and and gave me the strength to stand up for them even in the face of heated opposition. (Like when I take a stance against sludge spewers in the WAHM community)

But does that mean that I’m made of steel? That having someone turn and attack me for telling the truth about a situation doesn’t hurt? Unfortunately not. Words always hurt. I’ve seen my picture on a forum with a beard and ‘troll’ written on it. (In response to my stance against an illegal ponzi scheme mascarading as an ‘innocent auto surf’.) That didn’t just hurt - it felt like a knife in my back.

You would think after an experience like that that I would just shut up and mind my own business… LOL! But we all know that isn’t going to happen ;)

Now… truth: I am not always confident in my personal life. There are days when I wake up, look myself in the mirror and think ‘Who the heck are you?’

I think most people do this every once in awhile… Nicole, don’t you?

I just don’t let it affect what I do. A moment of self doubt is just a moment of self doubt. It’s not going to define my day or my life.

Do I have any tips for you? Yes, I think so…

  • Standing up for what is right may make some people mad but it gives other people courage to do the same - so do it!
  • True confidence in life comes from know Whose you are and Who He made you to be.
  • True confidence in business comes from enjoying the fruit of your labors.

That’s about as sage as I dare get tonight ;)

Now, for my question for you…

What is the number one thing that you look for in the people that you want to work closely with?

Until next time… Smooches!

Blog voyeurs… How confident do you feel about life and business?

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This is the first post in a cross blog conversation.

Hey Nicole,

I have so enjoyed getting to know you over the last couple of years.  From our first JV I have been really glad to have the opportunity to work with someone who shares my work ethic and commitment to providing something of real value to other moms like us.

Do you ever look back over the years and wonder how you got to where you are?  Did you imagine four or five years ago that you would be working side by side with someone as big as Jimmy D. Brown?  You really do amaze me you know.

I see a commonality between a lot of us work at home moms.  We came to the web with a little idea and the hope of making some extra money.  Then we have our eyes opened to the big world of internet marketing and realize… we could do something bigger and better than we ever imagined possible.

It didn’t happen over night for either one of us, but it did happen.

I have a question for you Nicole.  It’s pretty personal so forgive me if I push the boundaries of our friendship a little to get to know you on a deeper level…

It is this:  What have you learned most about yourself in this last year?

I look forward to reading your reply.  Have a great week :)

Blessings, Kelly

(Keep an eye on Nicole’s blog for her reply.) 

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